Being On Welfare Is Hard Work

Self-Care

Ever feel like hurting yourself?

  • Drugs
  • Alcohol
  • Self-Mutilation
  • Overspending
  • Isolation
  • Casual Sex
  • Eating too much or too little
  • Allowing toxic people in your life
  • Risky situations
  • Watching things that make you feel worse
  • Avoidance

Here are some steps to deliverance

1. Honesty

Be honest with yourself and with God if you expect to receive God’s blessing of deliverance. Any sin that is not confessed or repented of gives the evil spirits a “legal right” to stay.

2. Humility

You have to recognize that you are dependent upon God and His provisions and mercy for deliverance.

3. Repentance

Repentance is a determined turning away from all sin and works of the devil. You must hate all evil in your life and fall out of agreement with it. Deliverance is not to be used merely to gain relief from problems but in order to become more conformed into the likeness of Jesus through by submitting to God’s will. Repentance requires open confession of all sin.

4. Renunciation

Renunciation is the forsaking of all evil. Renunciation is action resulting from repentance. For example, if you repent of lust you should destroy or delete all of your pornography.

5. Forgiveness

God freely and readily forgives all who confess their sins and ask for forgiveness through Jesus Christ (1 John 1:9). He expects us to forgive all others who have done wrong to us in any way (Matt. 6:14-15). In my observation, demons won’t leave the person being prayed for if the person is reluctant to forgive others.

6. Prayer

Ask God to deliver you and set you free in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. The scriptures read “Whoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be delivered” (Joel 2:32).

7. Warfare

Prayer and warfare are two separate and distinct activities. Prayer is toward God and warfare is toward the enemy. Identify the spirits, address them directly by name in a commanding voice, and in faith command them to go in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Have a battle-like mindset with determination and assurance of victory. Remember Jesus gives us the power to tread on serpents and scorpions (Luke 10:19).

Here’s a lil music to help you get started – it helps me!

#SelfCare

We often do so much for others that taking care of ourselves individually goes untouched.  I’m not talking about getting our nails and hair done – those are things we do to keep our masks shining.  The concept of self-care is deceptively simple: making time to take of yourself for the benefit of your overall mental and physical well-being.  But if you’re human who exists in this world – the real world, where burnout, depression, anxiety, pain, illness, trauma, oppression, shitty families, violence, tragedy, breakups, divorces, death, unemployment, addiction, and good old fashioned bad times exist – you know that “taking care of yourself” is never a simple thing.

There is no denying that alcohol and other mind-altering substances give the user some type of pleasant sensation. Even if the “high” does not constitute a state of euphoria, it is at least a respite from unpleasant sensations of anxiety, tension, and depression, and awkward self-consciousness. The use of such chemicals is nothing other than the pursuit of contentment.

There’s a frustrating misconception that anything that is not 100 percent selfless is selfish. But taking care of ourselves and caring for and considering others are not mutually exclusive. In fact, taking care of our own health and well-being empowers us to be better friends, partners, coworkers, bosses, family members, and humans. Without doing the essential work of showing up for ourselves, how can we expect to be in any shape to show up for others? As the old saying goes, you have to put your oxygen mask on before you can assist anyone else.

One of the most common criticisms of self-care is that it’s unfair and unrealistic to put all this pressure on yourself to be in charge of your own well-being. And that’s absolutely true—there’s nothing more annoying than the old adage that you can “choose happiness,” as if you’ve always had the power to zap away your misery and have just been squandering it. None of us has the capacity to soothe all that ails us on our own. Self-care is as much about opening yourself up to the many ways others can help you as it is about taking care of yourself. It’s educating yourself on resources, giving yourself permission to access professional help without shame, and asking for what you need.

We have options we can attend self-care groups or twelve-step groups, we can try therapy and we can stay stuck.  One thing I’ve found out is that I must stay centered with God in my life before I attempt any outside intervention.

 

1, Jesus said, “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” Matthew 11:26-30 MSG

 

2. When Elijah saw how things were, he ran for dear life to Beersheba, far in the south of Judah. He left his young servant there and then went on into the desert another day’s journey. He came to a lone broom bush and collapsed in its shade, wanting in the worst way to be done with it all—to just die: “Enough of this, GOD! Take my life—I’m ready to join my ancestors in the grave!” Exhausted, he fell asleep under the lone broom bush.

#NFL @nflcommish

Why didn’t Commish mention Kaepernick in his apology and why send out an apology now? Well let’s look at what an apology is:

Apologizing when you’ve broken a rule of social conduct—from cutting in line to breaking the law—re-establishes that you know what the “rules” are, and you agree that they should be upheld. This allows others to feel safe knowing you agree that hurtful behavior isn’t OK.Apologies re-establish dignity for those you hurt. Letting the injured party know that you know it was your fault, not theirs, helps them feel better, and it helps them save face.Apologizing helps repair relationships by getting people talking again, and makes them feel comfortable with each other again.A sincere apology allows you to let people know you’re not proud of what you did, and won’t be repeating the behavior. That lets people know you’re the kind of person who is generally careful not to hurt others and puts the focus on your better virtues, rather than on your worst mistakes.

Why didn’t Commish apologize to Kaepernick?

Perhaps because for some people, an apology often feels like an admission that they are inadequate—that, rather than having made a mistake, there is something inherently wrong with them. Others believe that offering the first apology after an argument is an admission of guilt and responsibility for the entirety of a conflict that involved wrongs on the part of both parties; they think an apology from them will allow the other person to take no responsibility for their own part in the conflict. Sometimes an apology seems to call added attention to a mistake that may have gone unnoticed.

Why apologize now – it’s about the money!

If there is one thing we can all agree on, it’s that the National Football League is a financial juggernaut. In 2014, the National Football League raked in 7.3 billion dollars, with each of the league’s 32 teams taking home $226.4 million. This was an increase of more than twenty percent from 2013’s revenue.

Professional football became Americans’ favorite spectator sport in the 1960s. It was a decade of great players (as is every decade): Johnny Unitas and Sonny Jurgensen, Lenny Moore and Gayle Sayers, Deacon Jones and Dick Butkus, John Mackey and Raymond Berry.

The National Football League (NFL) has longed reigned as America’s favorite professional sports league, having surpassed Major League Baseball (MLB) and prevailed against the National Basketball Association (NBA). Success may have spoiled the NFL, as the league has exhibited pompous and arrogant behavior.

NFL owners could congratulate themselves for having survived World War II intact, if just barely so. The 1945 championship game garnered the top gross gate receipts in the history of the championship with 32,178 fans contributing $164,542.

Whatever the product the NFL was selling in the 1990s and early 2000s, it came predominately in shades of black. The commercialization and racialization of NFL football have proceeded hand in hand since the 1960s, as pro football’s thrills have been disproportionately provided by African American players. The number of black players in the NFL increased from 12 percent in 1959 to 28 percent in 1968, 42 percent in 1975, and 49 percent in 1982, the last season that African Americans constituted a minority in the NFL. The black majority grew to 54 percent in 1985, 61 percent in 1990, and 68 percent in 1992, where it has more or less stabilized (fluctuating between 65 and 69 percent).

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Pro football is a continuation of war by other means. —Thomas B. Morgan, Esquire , October 1965 (after Von Clausewitz) It ain’t even war, it’s just show business. But show business is a kind of war. —Peter Gent, Esquire , September 1980


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References:
Oriard, M. (2010). Brand NFL : Making and Selling America’s Favorite Sport. The University of North Carolina Press.


Surdam, David George. Run to Glory and Profits : The Economic Rise of the NFL during the 1950s, UNP – Nebraska, 2020. ProQuest Ebook Central, http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/cmlibrary-ebooks/detail.action?docID=1335303.
Created from cmlibrary-ebooks on 2020-06-06 12:03:50.

Oriard, M. (2010). Brand NFL : Making and Selling America’s Favorite Sport. The University of North Carolina Press.

Call Me Privileged’: Attorney Norm Pattis Sparks Outrage With Comments on ‘White Male Fatigue’, George Floyd Protests

“More than a thousand people are killed each year by the police. Most are white. Most suffer from mental illness,” he wrote. “But I am not viewing the death that spawned this week’s events as a sign of an epidemic of racial violence. What I know of the country’s history tells me that we are doing better than ever on race. There are no slaves. Jim Crow is dead.”

Read more here

https://www.pattisblog.com/blog/7127/white-male-privilege-and-the-death-of-a-dream/

#GunControl – The Real Story

Gun Control – I must be cruel to be kind

Fallacy – a mistaken belief, especially one based on unsound argument

Gun Control – is an illusion the moment it is thought of.  Having the ability to control guns is a fallacy delivered to the residents of the United States by law makers and lobbyist to appease those for it and those against it.  The deception of gun control that has caused families harmed at the hand of a gun man to actually think a loved one’s death was not in vain if measures are taken.  It is an illusion meticulously crafted by the tempter.  Gun control like a paradox – in Hamlet – I must be cruel to be kind.  Gun ControlInterestingly the bias for gun control is based solely on the group’s interest at the moment – a tragedy occurs.  The attempt to control guns by congress and other DC based groups is the most deceitful casuistry and subterfuge of the 21st century in front of American citizens who are looking for answers albeit in the wrong place.  We won’t find solace and comfort for our loved ones who have been shot at the hands of a random gunman.  Congress and other on the [Hill] have no experience in helping those in pain.  For this type of pain we must look to a force that is greater than congress, picket signs and petitions.  We must look to Alpha and Omega, may you find Him now.

#MCA #EzPass

Cross tolls in NY 10 times in a month and don’t pay and you would owe $50 for the tolls, $25 in fines and $1,000 in penalties within three months.

I heard this morning that one individual had received $14,000 worth of those extreme orange envelopes for tolls in New York yet the tolls range approximately from $1.30 – $5.00!  As millions mount up in unpaid fines on the New York State Thruway’s crossing of the Tappan Zee, state officials announced a 3-week amnesty program Tuesday. Set to launch in February, it will give Tolls By Mail cashless tolling customers with open violations amnesty for the penalties if they just pay the tolls they owe.  They stood in line for hours to have receive their amnesty.

A Synopsis of Fees

  • The New York E-ZPass program offers discounts on all city crossings and additional discounts for drivers on Staten Island and Rockaway. The Metropolitan Transportation Authority is currently proposing toll hikes, in various forms, and the fares listed below are subject to change.
  • The Bronx-Whitestone, Throgs Neck, and RFK Bridges and the Hugh L. Carey and Queens Midtown Tunnels charge a blanket $7.50 toll each way. E-ZPass holders in New York pay $5.33.
  • The Henry Hudson Bridge, a non-stop operation, allows New York registrants to pay $2.44 via E-ZPass, or $5 by mail in each direction.
  • Cross Bay and Marine Parkway bridges charge $3.75, in each direction for cash and out-of-state tolls, and $2 for New Yorkers. E-ZPass users in Rockaway pay $1.30.
  • The Verrazano Bridge’s $15 toll is charged to travelers paying with cash or an out-of-state E-ZPass. New York E-ZPass registrants pay $10.66 and Staten Islanders in the program pay $5.50.

If the first toll bill by mail is not paid by the customer, a $5 late fee is imposed on the second notice. If the second notice is also ignored, violation fees of $100 per toll are imposed — and those start at the end of the billing cycle. Cross 10 times in a month and don’t pay and you would owe $50 for the tolls, $25 in fines and $1,000 in penalties within three months.

Why am I #Concerned, I received 3 tickets each for $1.50 because I was driving a rental my car had been in an accident and was being repaired.  I paid the $4.50, sent a letter, and a copy of the accident report to EZ Pass and their lawyers.  I now owe $500!!! Lastly, after several calls to EzPass they stated the monies were posted to only one ticket. That means one of those tickets should have had a credit of $3.00!

Any Advice?

What Are You #Concerned About Today

Why Won’t He Call Me Anymore?

Use me, how could he use me when I so ready to go up the hill with him and “do the do!

jack-and-jillDo you remember the old nursery rhyme about Jack and Jill – well there’s a lil’ more to it than a cute nursery rhyme recited to infants, toddlers, and preschoolers. ?

The real story began with the beheading of King Louis XVI who lost his crown and Queen Marie Antoinette who went tumbling down after him – kinda sorta.  You know those two who’s ostentatious wealth perhaps drive their sucky attitude towards the poor.  Remember the famous statement, “Let them eat cake”? Well, that’s another story all in itself.

There’s another rumor about a couple back in the 1690’s who would sneak up the hill to be alone and you know –  “do the do”.  The girl gets pregnant and the boy dies from a falling rock and the girl dies after giving birth.  All that from a nursery rhyme! True or not I don’t know…

Why!!! doesn’t he call me anymore? Well,  there are the obvious answers, he doesn’t want to be bothered, he doesn’t like me or find me interesting anymore, or perhaps he just wanted to use me!

Use me, how could he use me when I so ready to go up the hill with him and “do the do!

Oops we’re not ready to tell all that truth, we are not ready to take on the responsibility of having participated in a manner that would surely execute our fantasy wedding dress dreams!

Wedding dress, yup we all do it, have done and will do it again.  We see Mr. Could be standing there looking oh so debonair.  Or we see Mr. Ruff Neck rolling ’round the way with those Vogue rims on that cream-colored Cadillac and in a fleeting moment, we don’t even notice it when it happens, were damn near oblivious to our own inner workings as a woman!

bamThere it is, the story of our lives!

Jack and Jill went up the hill to fetch a pail of water;
Jack fell down and broke his crown and Jill came tumbling after;

Actually, it went a lil’ like this;
Jill saw Jack up on the hill;
Jill was all warm and fuzzy looking at Jack;
Jack was on the phone;
Jack had not noticed Jill;
Jill saw Jack’s friend;
Jack’s friend introduced Jill to Jack;
Jill was still warm and fuzzy;
Jack being who he was felt Jill’s warm and fuzziness from the car or cell phone;
After some time Jill allowed Jack to feel her warm and fuzziness;
Jack had skills, and made Jill feel really really warm;
Jill had been in a bad relationship previously so anything would have been better than what she had;
Jack did and said things that Tyrone never would;
Jill feels warm and fuzzy all the time now!
Jill never asked Jack if they could stay on the hill – she assumed it would happen because  Jack never said I don’t like it here on the hill with you;
Jack had warm and fuzzy feelings for others…
When Jack shows Jill who he really is, Jill is furious;

Remember Jill never asked Jack if they could stay on the hill;
Jill had already bought her wedding dress and had the guest list prepared – in her visions of things to come:
Jack falls down and breaks his crown, Jill went tumbling after him;
Jack keeps being Jack and Jill keeps tumbling…right into aggravated rage, anger, hurt,  and frustration.
Jill doesn’t realize that she should have had a conversation with Jack about the arrangements on the hill, instead,  she begins to talk “ish” about Jack to her friends and maybe his friends too.

I’m thinking of a song right here, “I’ll bust the windows out your car…” oh nevermind…

Jill is now consumed with her loss of Jack, she needs something to relieve the pain, instead,  she finds those crazy memes to post all over social media as if Jack can read.

Why does she call his phone 32 times in row as if he’s going to answer and if he does why does she get mad and his response ____________________________________?

Jill doesn’t know she’s (emotionally) sick and requires the help of the Comforter, to help navigate her valley of pain.

Until Jill acknowledges her current state she will place blame and try to make Jack feel like dung.

Proverbs 18:22New King James Version (NKJV)

22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing, (Not she who seduces him, or she who get’s involved with a married man, or she who gives up the goodies before the trial”.  It reads “He” who finds…
And obtains favor from the Lord.

Got Questions?