#SelfCare

We often do so much for others that taking care of ourselves individually goes untouched.  I’m not talking about getting our nails and hair done – those are things we do to keep our masks shining.  The concept of self-care is deceptively simple: making time to take of yourself for the benefit of your overall mental and physical well-being.  But if you’re human who exists in this world – the real world, where burnout, depression, anxiety, pain, illness, trauma, oppression, shitty families, violence, tragedy, breakups, divorces, death, unemployment, addiction, and good old fashioned bad times exist – you know that “taking care of yourself” is never a simple thing.

There is no denying that alcohol and other mind-altering substances give the user some type of pleasant sensation. Even if the “high” does not constitute a state of euphoria, it is at least a respite from unpleasant sensations of anxiety, tension, and depression, and awkward self-consciousness. The use of such chemicals is nothing other than the pursuit of contentment.

There’s a frustrating misconception that anything that is not 100 percent selfless is selfish. But taking care of ourselves and caring for and considering others are not mutually exclusive. In fact, taking care of our own health and well-being empowers us to be better friends, partners, coworkers, bosses, family members, and humans. Without doing the essential work of showing up for ourselves, how can we expect to be in any shape to show up for others? As the old saying goes, you have to put your oxygen mask on before you can assist anyone else.

One of the most common criticisms of self-care is that it’s unfair and unrealistic to put all this pressure on yourself to be in charge of your own well-being. And that’s absolutely true—there’s nothing more annoying than the old adage that you can “choose happiness,” as if you’ve always had the power to zap away your misery and have just been squandering it. None of us has the capacity to soothe all that ails us on our own. Self-care is as much about opening yourself up to the many ways others can help you as it is about taking care of yourself. It’s educating yourself on resources, giving yourself permission to access professional help without shame, and asking for what you need.

We have options we can attend self-care groups or twelve-step groups, we can try therapy and we can stay stuck.  One thing I’ve found out is that I must stay centered with God in my life before I attempt any outside intervention.

 

1, Jesus said, “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” Matthew 11:26-30 MSG

 

2. When Elijah saw how things were, he ran for dear life to Beersheba, far in the south of Judah. He left his young servant there and then went on into the desert another day’s journey. He came to a lone broom bush and collapsed in its shade, wanting in the worst way to be done with it all—to just die: “Enough of this, GOD! Take my life—I’m ready to join my ancestors in the grave!” Exhausted, he fell asleep under the lone broom bush.

Supreme Court Rules on Sexual Orientation

In historic decision, Supreme Court rules employers cannot fire workers because of gender identity, sexual orientation
The U.S. Supreme Court ruled Monday that employers cannot fire workers because of their gender identity or sexual orientation. In a 6-3 vote, the justices found that “an employer who fires an individual merely for being gay or transgender violates Title VII.”
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Blush: #DailyPrompt

Blush – develop a pink tinge in the face from embarrassment or shame.

Myocardial Blush

Angiographic Assessment of Myocardial Reperfusion in Patients Treated with Primary Angioplasty for Acute Myocardial Infarction – (other wise known as a Heart Attack) – Myocardial blush grades were defined as follows: 0, no myocardial blush or contrast density; 1, minimal myocardial blush or contrast density; 2, moderate myocardial blush or contrast density but less than that obtained during angiography of a contralateral or ipsilateral non– infarct-related coronary artery; and 3, normal myocardial blush or
contrast density, comparable with that obtained during angiography of a contralateral or ipsilateral non–infarct-related coronary artery. When myocardial blush persisted (“staining”), this phenomenon suggested leakage of the contrast medium into the extravascular space and was graded 0.

Blush: Faces of Shame Excerpt

Blush Faces of Shame by Elspeth Probyn

Book by : Elspeth Probyn

Blushing African American

Yes, black people do get embarrassed, and bashful and shy but we typically stay the same color when we do. So our shame is more hidden, giving us an aura of confidence when we may just be dying on the inside. Source Quora

Blushing in the Word

 Jeremiah 6:15

 “Were they ashamed because of the abomination they have done? They were not even ashamed at all; They did not even know how to blush. Therefore they shall fall among those who fall; At the time that I punish them, They shall be cast down,” says the LORD.
  Jeremiah 8:12

 “Were they ashamed because of the abomination they had done? They certainly were not ashamed, And they did not know how to blush; Therefore they shall fall among those who fall; At the time of their punishment they shall be brought down,” Says the LORD.

 

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Daily Prompt: Captivating

An excerpt from the writer known as Rhacky8

As I read the last paragraph the writer’s post – I was captivated…

…More than ten years past, with an ailing economy, a jobless youth that would rather commit crime than work, an abusive police force that that rewards hooliganism and kidnaps children for the crimes of their parents, and a legislature dominated by greedy individuals representing themselves in parliament and the government still celebrates to the victories of the early 2000s, it is then safe to ask what independence are we celebrating?

While thinking about the past and recent articles about police brutality and shooting of unarmed men I decided to do a quick search on “abusive police force” and here is an excerpt of what I found to be captivating reading:

Self-efficacy is an important aspect of social learning. If a person believes that they are capable of carrying out the behaviour which they have observed and that they are likely to achieve the desired result, then the aggressive act is more likely to be imitated. This helps to explain individual differences in behaviour. It also explains why an individual will behaviour aggressively in one situation where they feel confident of success and not in another where the chances of success are less likely.

When viewing the video clips on social media of police officers beating and beating and beating a man while he’s on the ground screaming in terror, I often think to myself,  what does it look and sound like to the police officer – what are the other officers who are not engaged in the beating thinking or feeling?  What does it mean to be subdued – (when did the definition change), what is their definition of “enough is enough” does the screaming of the [victim] matter (apparently not), does crowd influence the officer to either keep striking or surrender his baton? Do you remember the Rodney King beating!

Albeit Bandura’s piece speaks specifically to children however,  I would bet the farm that the police officers who have and will in the future display aggression towards another individual in the manner they displayed with Rodney King were once children too – that thought is most assuredly – Captivating!

You shall not mistreat any widow or fatherless child.

Woe to those who decree iniquitous decrees, and the writers who keep writing oppression,  to turn aside the needy from justice and to rob the poor of my people of their right, that widows may be their spoil, and that they may make the fatherless their prey!

 

Source:  Bandura, Albert. “Social learning theory of aggression.” Journal of communication 28.3 (1978): 12-29.

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Captivating

A work of art such as the Mona Lisa is…Mona Lisa

Watching children learn is…

Listening to my daughter age right before my eyes is…

Falling asleep to the sound of raindrops is…

Teaching in a classroom is…

Hearing him laugh is…

Watching him walk into a room is…

Watching God move in my life is Captivating.

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