Category: My Concerns

It’s the little things that concern me…

  • Run Forest Run a #Sociopath is Following You

    Run Forest Run a #Sociopath is Following You

    Could you spot a sociopath? Sociopaths aren’t always the stereotypical “serial killer type” you might be thinking of. These individuals come in all shapes and sizes. Since sociopaths are experts at presenting themselves as everyday people, they can be very difficult to identify. That is unless you know what to look for, examples, complete disregard for their wives, calling their daughters a bitch, and no respect for their mothers, sex and money are their primary purpose for engagement, liars, and no remorse, there is nothing you can say that would hurt them other than, no to sex or no to money. They listen and learn about all of your strengths and weaknesses, it will be your weakness and your kind heart that they will use to destroy you (that happens when they get bored with you and you become useless) – and later call you the “crazy bitch”.


    What Is A Sociopath?
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    Sociopathy, also known as an anti-social personality disorder, is a type of chronic mental condition defined by dysfunctional and destructive ways that the individual thinks and acts.

    An individual with this personality disorder will typically have no understanding or regard for the distinction between right or wrong. Their treatment of others can best be characterized by a callous indifference; they will antagonize or manipulate others without guilt or remorse.

    The causes of personality disorders are not fully understood. They’re thought to be the result of genetic and environmental influences. Some people may have certain genes that make them predisposed to developing the disorder, while certain scenarios might trigger its development.

    There is no effective form of treatment once the disorder has been diagnosed, as those affected have zero desire to change. The only treatment is to completely prevent the disorder from developing. This involves working with children who begin to show early signs of personality or conduct disorder. If children reach their teenage years without receiving any form of preventative treatment, it’s almost guaranteed that the disorder will be permanent.

    What we can learn from Ted Bundy’s case is that sociopaths aren’t easily identified because they know how to create an inconspicuous persona. At least some of us know an actual sociopath, although we may not even be aware of it. So what signs can we look for?

    Sociopaths are manipulative, and they’ll suck the life out of you for their own benefit. In some cases, like that of Ted Bundy, sociopaths can be extremely dangerous; they won’t hesitate to commit a crime to get what they want. If you know someone that fits the following profile, it would definitely be in your best interest to stay far, far away from them!

    1. Superficial Charm

    Sociopaths often appear to be very charming on the surface in order to create a facade. They are very aware of the effect their charm or wit may have on others, as their pretense of likability allows them easily gain people’s trust.

    1. Narcissistic

    Sociopaths are extremely egocentric, believing that they’re always right and that everyone should agree with their actions and opinions.

    1. Pathological Lying

    Sociopaths will lie, and lie, and lie in order to create a false persona. Lying comes naturally to them because they aim to hide their true motives.

    1. Manipulative And Cunning

    Sociopaths are extremely manipulative, attempting to find and exploit other people’s weaknesses in order to get what they want.

    1. Shallow Emotions Or None at All

    Sociopaths do not genuinely feel emotions. All emotions that they exhibit are intended to fulfill an ulterior motive. Although sociopaths don’t feel emotions, many can fake their emotions, fooling the people around them.

    1. Lack Of Remorse, Shame, Or Guilt

    Sociopaths are infamous for being devoid of these three emotions. They do not feel bad about their actions, even if these actions hurt others.

    1. Incapable Of Human Attachment

    Sociopaths are unable to form genuine relationships with others. They will struggle to make friends or establish romantic relationships. They may form relationships in order to appear normal, but they never experience the feelings that are present in functional, intimate relationships.

    1. Constant Need For Stimulation

    Sociopaths get bored very easily, and they need constant stimulation in their lives. This desire is related to their inherent need for self-gratification. Their need for stimulation can cause to them to take extreme and unnecessary risks that put themselves and others in dangerous situations.

    1. Lack Of Empathy

    They are unable to empathize with others. They are unable to relate to the perspectives or problems of others because they don’t understand how the other person feels. For example, if someone told you a sad story about a family member dying, you would feel empathic to their grief and pain, too. A sociopath, on the other hand, would feel nothing. In fact, lack of empathy exhibited by children could be an indicator of their later onset of antisocial personality disorder.

    1. Poor Behavioral Controls / Impulsive Nature

    Sociopaths will exhibit very short tempers, as well as hostility, irritability, and aggression. They’ll act on their impulses without thinking or caring about any potential consequences. They may behave violently or impulsively, and also may have problems with drug and alcohol use. These characteristics typically make people with antisocial personality disorder unable to fulfill responsibilities related to family, work or school.

    1. Promiscuous Sexual Behavior / Infidelity

    Sociopaths are likely to be unfaithful and promiscuous, which is connected to their tendency to get bored easily. Like we said earlier, they need constant stimulation.

    Nothing good can come from having a sociopath in your life, especially in regards to a romantic relationship. The best solution is to simply avoid these people at all costs. Don’t let them con you into thinking that they’re nice and sweet, because they are only embodying a persona. Whoever they are trying to portray doesn’t actually exist.

    If you suspect someone of being a sociopath, run your own sociopath test and look to see if they have any of the 11 traits listed.

    Deep down, these people are extremely cold-hearted, and they completely lack the full spectrum of human emotion. The only person they care about is themselves. No one else is important to them, and they see all other people as potential targets for their own selfish, deviant actions.

    If you have a sociopath in your life put his/her image here and run, I hope this helps someone who finds themselves in the grips of what I want to call a demonic spirit – with that said if you know of one or you think you are are in a relationship with one, walk away and remember they are impervious to any real feelings you can’t hurt them but you can pray and ignore them.

    Source: Just a moment… (n.d.). Just a moment… https://www.instantcheckmate.com/crimewire/post/11-signs-of-a-sociopath/

  • Aggravated Assumption

    There have always been self-help groups both online and within social media apps. There are both paid and free versions of self-help programs and subscriptions. Self-help groups allow people to feed their natural tendency to seek acceptance, comfort, and understanding in a safe setting. It stands to reason that one should be careful when opting for free self-help programs. We must be careful that not only are we acutely aware of our diagnosis but that we vet free online programs. As women, we can have a host of issues from mother/daughter, mother/father, boyfriend/girlfriend, straight/gay, and from those few suggestions there can be a plethora of sub-issues. When selecting a free online self-help program we must be completely informed of the history and training of said group’s ability to address our issues. With that said, as I was perusing the internet I stumbled across a post about the sexuality of a man by a woman who claims she is a self-love specialist. Some of the best self-help groups offer emotional support and practical help with a mental health challenge, experience, or concern shared by all the members. I may be a little late on this post considering Kevin Samuels has passed away…

    TonyaTko

    Who is Tonyatko – according to her website she’s, “Bold, Courageous & Spiritually Aware, Tonya Tko is the wise & Beautiful Big Sister you’ve always wanted.” She further states, “Tonya Tko uplifts you to become the greatest version of yourself using divine wisdom, compassionate caring & beautiful enriching energy.” However, for over an hour she condemned Kevin Samuels as a hidden gay man. Kevin was intereviewed by VLAD and this is what he had to say.

    Tonya states on her website that she has knowledge, wisdom, compassion and open-mindedness to help you create the life of your dreams. Tonya Tko is the embodiment of compassion, love and strength. She also shares about ending up living in her car. During her displacement, she stayed fully committed to actualizing her dream. The year of living in her car taught her to put into action the principles of Self-Love she had been teaching online for 8 years. Yet this love boat stated that ALL the women who called into Kevin Samuels show were women who lacked healthy male role models and his viewers were losers.

    What we won’t do is mention all the typos on her home page because Lord knows I’ve had quite a few and not one person reading my blog made me aware of the mis-spellings – shhh don’t say anything she also has some computer language that should be removed but I digress. Not only am I annoyed that this bundle of love, joy and compassion for others could tear up a man’s reputation with her words and sexual moans and groans without having a conversation with him about his sexual preference but as someone who was homeless living in her car she has done nothing for the homeless population (notice her header below). Whether he is gay or not what gives her the right to put him out there and in the derogatory manner in which she did?

    The menu from her page which does not include where someone can either read about her programs for homeless women or make donation to her the cause of her choice.
  • Updates

    Updates

    My sincerest apologies, I was unaware that my site was not updating properly, the edits and changes I saw were in the draft mode and were not properly showing up in the published version – I’ve got a lot of work to do….

  • How To Avoid A Speeding Ticket in Florida

    How To Avoid A Speeding Ticket in Florida

    #SpeedingTicket

    I clearly do not understand why #Cadillac would put 160 mph on the dashboard if going 95 mph is too fast. I wasn’t causing any harm there were no other cars in front of me, none to my right, and no one was behind me. There was however this ugly brown car with what looked like it had gumball machines on top of the hood, shoot I assumed it was a clown car because I was so close to the #amusementpark Universal Orlando Resort!

    Anywho, he proceeded to take my info (I tried to go live on Facebook but it didn’t work). When the officer returned with 2 extremely long pieces of paper like #CVS, he told me that the tint on my license plate was illegal. I said, “Well, Sir, why in the world would #Autozone sell me a tint-colored plate to put over my tag if it was illegal?” I strongly suggested to him that he give Autozone a ticket for selling illegal tint-colored tags. He said to me, “Ma’am drug dealers sell weed and that’s illegal.” I said where, where are there drug dealers selling weed – I want names, I need names and addresses!!!

    Anywho, the officer told me I could go to #driverschool to avoid getting 3 points. 3 POINTS! Dammit, I get more points at #foxwoodscasino when I literally just put my money on the roulette table!!!

    I then told him I should have bought a #horse and thanked him for not shooting me.

    Seriously, it could have gone all kinds of crazy in these times in which we are living. #TravelingMercies work, but they won’t prevent you from getting a speeding ticket.

  • #GoodNight Paul Sorvino

    #GoodNight Paul Sorvino

    Paul Sorvino, an imposing actor who specialized in playing crooks and cops like Paulie Cicero in “Goodfellas” and NYPD sergeant Phil Cerretta on “Law & Order,” has died. He was 83.

    His death was announced by his publicist Roger Neal on behalf of Sorvino’s wife Dee Dee Sorvino, who was at his side when he passed.

    He was one of my favorites…

  • If He Was Here

    If He Was Here

    If he was here I call him for no reason…

    If he was here I could ask him for advice…

    If he was here I could share my fears…

    If he was here I could share my accomplishments…

    If he was here I would learn something I never knew…

    If he was here I wouldn’t be sad on this day…

    I miss my dad…

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