When #Sorry Isn’t Enough

What is sorry – feeling distress, especially through sympathy with someone else’s misfortune; or feeling regret or penitence;

What is penitence – the action of feeling or showing sorrow and regret for having done wrong; repentance.

Can one simply say, “I’m sorry” when they have caused someone harm;

Can one simply say, “I’m sorry” when they cause someone harm over and over and over again;

Can one simply say, “I’m sorry” when the harm caused is irreparable;

Can one simply say, “I’m sorry” when the recipient is unwilling to accept;

Can one simply say, “I’m sorry” and keep operating in a behavior that is harmful;

The Bible says, “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.”

Apologizing is a way of recognizing our sins. It has a way of clearing the air between people and between you and God. When people apologize, they look for forgiveness for their sins. Sometimes, it means apologizing to God for the ways we have wronged Him.

Is there a difference between saying I’m sorry or apologizing – Saying sorry simply expresses your personal feelings about something. Apologizing implies that you are accepting the responsibility of the fault or mistake as well as expressing your regret about it. This is the main difference between sorry and apology.

When saying “sorry” didn’t work, I had to ask myself, “Lord, what is it You want me to do, what do You expect of me, what am I supposed to learn here. It was then that I received a call and the caller said to me something about Jesus saying He would create division between mother and daughter. I thought to myself, wow, I never read that or should I say that I read it but never paid any attention to it – until I found myself in a position where there was strife between me, my daughter and my mother and simply saying, “sorry” just didn’t seem like it was enough…

Not Peace but Division

Jesus said, 49 “I have come to bring fire on the earth, and how I wish it were already kindled! 50 But I have a baptism to undergo, and what constraint I am under until it is completed! 51 Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. 52 From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. 53 They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.”

Jesus would stress the cost of discipleship with these words:
“If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even their own life—such a person cannot be my disciple. And whoever does not carry their cross and follow me cannot be my disciple.” (Luke 14:26-27)[2]
Jesus is not teaching emotional hatred for family members, but making it very clear that all relationships must be secondary to following him. Even parents, even a wife or husband, even children, even brothers or sisters, none of these could be first in their lives . Every loyalty and every love – even of a disciple’s own life – must be less than love for him. “Whoever does not carry their cross” – whoever will not die to every other loyalty – “cannot be my disciple.”

…above all else Christ must come first, a hard pill to swallow but a necessary medicine nonetheless…

#Roseanne Barr’s Apologies?

An interview Roseanne Barr gave to a celebrity rabbi, in the days after her infamous twitter rant, was released Sunday, showing a weeping Barr pleading for forgiveness and saying “I’m not a racist. I’m an idiot.”roseanne barr

Rabbi Shmuley Boteach released the emotional podcast interview, Barr’s first since ABC canceled the show “Roseanne.” Boteach, a longtime spiritual adviser for Barr, asked her why she would write something that was in such “complete contravention” of her Jewish values.

“I’m a lot of things, a loud mouth and all that stuff,” Barr said, sobbing. “But I’m not stupid for God’s sake. I never would have wittingly called any black person. . . a monkey. I just wouldn’t do that. I didn’t do that. barr tweetAnd people think that I did that and it just kills me.”

No Roseanne your comment was not stupid – it was exactly what you thought – would happen when a the Muslim brotherhood and planet of the apes merged they would form a Black Woman

How to Apologize Appropriately
  1. Step 1: Express Remorse. Every apology needs to start with two magic words: “I’m sorry,” or “I apologize.” …
  2. Step 2: Admit Responsibility. Next, admit responsibility for your actions or behavior, and acknowledge what you did. …
  3. Step 3: Make Amends. …
  4. Step 4: Promise That It Won’t Happen Again.

Barr and executive producer Tom Werner reached an agreement that will allow Werner Entertainment to produce the spinoff for ABC without further creative or financial participation from Barr.

Still, Barr will retain all rights to her Roseanne Conner character and any future spinoffs or reboots beyond the one announced Thursday, the Hollywood Reporter said, citing sources.

 

 

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