Cutting Ties With A Sociopath
Ending a toxic relationship can be a difficult but important decision for your well-being. It’s essential to prioritize your mental and emotional health. Sociopathy is a perilous mental disorder; the traits associated with sociopathy aren’t great. But that only tells part of the story. The part that’s missing is they can be a sociopath and have a healthy relationship. They can be a sociopath and be educated. That’s a very uncomfortable reality for some people. People want to believe that all sociopaths are monsters and that all monsters are easy to spot, they are not, they are loveable, charming, handsome and sexually satisfying to the point of women quietly begging for marriage or monogamous, changing all that she is, to the point of proposing marriage! Men will rely on the information they have uncovered and present themselves as the man – she has always been looking for.
When angered (because you said no or uncovered their secrets) they instantly snatch away all the perceived love they had or do the things they know will anger you which will most assuredly cause harm to the next person or the repeat victim – it’s important that they know they can always return to if only for money or sex (never true intimacy).
What Does The Bible Say?
The Bible does not specifically use the term “sociopath,” but it does mention people who display antisocial behavior, such as Cain (Genesis 4:13), who killed his brother; Jezebel (1 Kings 21:25-26), who orchestrated murder and led people astray; and Judas (Matthew 27:3-5), who betrayed Jesus.
The Bible teaches that all people are made in the image of God (Genesis 1:27) and have inherent value and worth. The Bible also emphasizes the importance of love, empathy, and compassion, which are often lacking in people with sociopathic tendencies. For example, 1 John 3:14-15 states, “We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love each other. Anyone who does not love remains in death. Anyone who hates a brother or sister is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life residing in him.”
Here are some steps to consider when you realize you deserve better:
- Self-reflection: Take time to reflect on the relationship and how it has been impacting you. Acknowledge any feelings of fear, guilt, or uncertainty that may arise.
- Seek support: Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for emotional support and guidance. Talking to someone you trust can provide valuable perspective and comfort.
- Set boundaries: Communicate your decision to end the relationship. It’s important to assert your boundaries and prioritize your own needs. However in this case one should just leave, walk away, or run. A sociopath could care less because they are unable to care, love, or have concern for the other person.
- Create distance: If possible, create physical and emotional distance from the individual. This could involve blocking their contact information and avoiding places where you might run into them.
- Focus on self-care: Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Prioritize self-care practices such as exercise, meditation, and spending time with supportive loved ones.
- Reflect on lessons learned: Take the opportunity to reflect on any lessons or insights gained from the experience. This can contribute to personal growth and resilience.
The most important “takeaways” after the “love bomb” has been delivered are:
- God put that situation in your life to propel you to greater heights and to change the trajectory of your path to the most positive loving person you were meant to be;
- It will teach you about forgiveness and compassion for others and most importantly for yourself;
- There are no coincidences it was meant to happen;
- You were chosen by the sociopath because of a weakness they can assist you in and a strength they can pursue, money, status, sex, whatever they need at the moment. After the need is adjudicated they move on and leave the door open for intermittent visits. They have no desire to deal with a healthy person or a person that is committed to self-care. Should you look back you will see the sociopath has not excelled and his/her choice of the next victim will not be of any greater caliber than you and he or she will be in a worse condition in life before they crossed your path and that’s where your compassion and prayer comes in for them and mostly for you. Note:- this is not an opportunity or excuse to reach out via call or text, you should ban them, delete, and block all means of connection with the person, friends, and relatives, because they know about the sociopath and are not interested in you they will always protect him/her.
- Note to the Sociopath – You have the urge to cheat just because you can or your sexual desires include everything and anyone male and female, ask yourself, “Why do you want to continue to maintain this lifestyle when it destroys all those around you, especially the healthiest relationship?
- Look for signs of positivity – God has something great for you to do but you needed the experience of the toxic relationship to gain strength in the area they latched onto so to so you can move you to that wonderful peaceful beautiful worthy of great things and health connection with family, friends and a significant other.
Remember, it’s okay to seek professional guidance during this process. Take things at your own pace and be gentle with yourself as you navigate this challenging transition.
Look up the terms and/or scenarios below on the web to identify if he/she is a sociopath.
- Manipulative
- Deceptive
- Craves the appearance of upper social involvement
- Adultery
- Lack of empathy
- Multiple marriages
- Charming
- Impulsive
- Irresponsible
- Short term employment
- Lack of remorse
- His/Her story is full of painful experiences (listen closely he/she has no part in the painful experience it will always be what the other person did
- Callous
- Superficial charm
- Pathological lying
- Disrespect to his mother – that is NOT a man you ever want to get involved with, how he treats her is exactly what you will get and worse.
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Source: Sociopath Survivor
Summary
- People want to believe that all sociopaths are monsters and that all monsters are easy to spot, they are not, they are loveable, charming, handsome and sexually satisfying to the point of women quietly begging for marriage or monogamous, changing all that she is, to the point of proposing marriage.
- When angered (because you said no or uncovered their secrets) they instantly snatch away all the perceived love they had or do the things they know will anger you which will most assuredly cause harm to the next person or the repeat victim – it’s important that they know they can always return to if only for money or sex (never true intimacy).
- Anyone who hates a brother or sister is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life residing in him.
- God put that situation in your life to propel you to greater heights and to change the trajectory of your path to the most positive loving person you were meant to be;.
- You were chosen by the sociopath because of a weakness they can assist you in and a strength they can pursue, money, status, sex, whatever they need at the moment.
